Thursday, October 30, 2008

Tough Love vs. Spanking

Okay, many of you are faithful readers and you have offered some great words of wisdom in the past.

I need your help again. My wife forwarded me an email, that came from a friend of hers. In the email, the friend passed along a possible new form of discipline for our son. While he is still a little young for too much discipline, my wife and I definitely want to get an early start on setting Evan down the right path.

So, would you read her email below and let me know your thoughts. Your wisdom would be appreciated!

Tough Love vs. Spanking—A Good Argument

Most of the American population thinks it’s improper to spank children. So, I have tried other methods to control my kids when they have one of “those moments.”

One that I found effective is for me to just take the child for a car ride and talk. Some say it’s the vibration from the car, others say it’s the time away from any distractions such as TV, video games, computer, iPod, etc.

Either way, my kids usually calm down and stop misbehaving after our car ride together. Eye to eye contact helps a lot too.

I’ve included a photo below of one of my sessions with my son, in case you would like to use the technique.

P.S. This works with grandchildren, nieces, and nephews as well.


  1. Oh cmon! I'm not even an alien and I know this one. (grin)
    Righteousness is angry. Anger feels good! Discipline is painful. If application of discipline doesn't actually hurt you more than your child, you'd better stop and rethink your logic before application. Oh wait, you ARE an alien. Maybe you should repray your logic before application. (grin)
    -jimmy paravane

  2. I love it! Why didn't they have this when I raising my two? I was struck by the "this is your speed" in the background. Haha!

  3. would definitely hurt to watch Evan hanging onto the windshield...even more than he hurt holding on...

  4. Bill...I'm just thankful my parents didn't think of this!

    And...photoshop is wonderful, isn't it?

  5. You had me going there for a second, until I saw the picture!

    Spank away. It ain't fun; but neither is bailing your kids out of jail.

  6. you know...blogging is a lot like need to set it up all good for the people to stay engaged.

    Folks...if you read this blog and plan to vote for Mr. Obama, Rick has asked a good question. I would encourage you to go over there and answer his question...Rick, I noticed, as of this morning, no one had commented on it...maybe they can't give an answer!

  7. What? That's what I do. What?


  8. I couldn't find Rick's site. But as an Obama supporter who has already voted the entire Democratic ticket let me just add this:
    Go vote. I don't care if you vote for Obama, McCain, None Of The Above to register your vote of No Confidence in either candidate, whoever. But if you don't vote, I have every right to smirk and roll my eyes when you try to tell me what you think is wrong with this country. (grin)
    -jimmy paravne

  9. won't be rolling your eyes at me...I'll be voting, not with a smile on my face, but voting as an American citizen, exercising my freedom and rights.

    Rick's Web site is: I think he will enjoy the dialogue with you. By the way, I commented on your comment on Heidi's site...I hope we can discuss that later...

  10. I knew I appreciated you Heidi...I can see you doing that now! Sadly, I can!

  11. Ha. And my comment was going to be "how can you have eye to eye contact if you are driving?" The picture answered that question for me. Well done.

  12. That had me cracking up. Too funny!

  13. Michael...drew you right in, huh?

    It did me too when I first saw it...

    Bub...glad to make you laugh today!

  14. No I just tape them to the wall. Have you seen that picture? It's hysterical.

    Heidi Reed

  15. Heidi...I have seen that picture...too funny!

  16. Steve,

    Thanks for the shoutout. I have been out driving a van load of senior adults on a foliage tour today and just returned at 3 pm.

    Needless to say, I am way behind...


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