Friday, May 28, 2010
What a struggle that is.
I think others struggle trusting people. Maybe I am the only one.
Either way, it is difficult to trust.
Too much water under the bridge to trust much.
Funny. Or is that ironic? People often say that I keep to myself too much. Or, I don’t speak up in meetings or share my soul with others.
Why should I? Experience tells me that as soon as I open my mouth, someone is taking detailed notes so that their gossip is accurate!
“Don’t worry. I won’t tell.” Only code for “Who can I tell first?”
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Words are just words. Letters of the alphabet thrown together. Thoughts put into something more tangible.
Words will never hurt us. Or so the old rhyme goes.
I never believed that rhyme to be true.
Especially, when you are ambushed by someone’s words.
Those spoken in anger.
You know the kind I mean. Those that jump out of nowhere to attack, accuse.
“I hate you.”
“You are stupid.”
“No one likes you.”
“You aren’t like us.”
Don’t tell me words don’t hurt.
Words can be vile.
Words always represent what’s in our heart.
Words often hurt.
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
The call of God.
Somewhat a “churchy” term.
Also somewhat confusing. Especially difficult to understand.
I’ve struggled with the call of God since my teenage years.
I desire to follow God. I want to be obedient to Him.
I know true happiness comes in following God’s plan for life.
Mentally, I know that.
Spiritually, I believe that.
Physically, it is a struggle. A daily struggle.
I can’t focus on 10 years down the road. I have to focus on today. This moment in time.
Maybe that’s why Jesus talked about picking up His cross daily.
Even that can be tough.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
I hate delays.
All kinds of delays.
I hate sitting in traffic and being delayed in arriving at work.
I hate being delayed when I travel by plane.
I hate being delayed because the person in the checkout lane has 30 items instead of the 20-item limit.
I hate delays.
Last week, delay came and hit me between the eyes.
It was not of my doing. I had no way to prevent it. And, to make it even worse, there’s nothing I can do about it.
Except accept it. Live with it. And, get over the frustration it brings.
Monday, May 24, 2010
Some people dream vivid dreams at night.
Some people day dream instead of working.
Some children have night terrors, a form of dreams.
For some reason, I’ve never dreamt much. Or, at least I rarely remember what takes place as I sleep.
I don’t worry about not dreaming much.
I’d much rather have dreams about where I’m heading. What I plan to do. Where I plan to go.
Those are much more meaningful dreams to me. More so than dreaming about a missed school test or some green-eyed monster chasing me.
I’d rather focus on where God is leading.
Saturday, May 22, 2010
There are many things I can’t change in the world.
I can’t change the direction of the wind.
I can’t change our nation’s economy.
I can’t change past actions.
I can’t change you.
However, I can change my attitude.
I can change from a negative “I can’t do this” to a positive “I will do my best…”
I can change from “this is impossible” to “I will try…”
The attitude I have is determined by me.
Oh, you can say things to irate me or hurt me or offend me.
But, I control my response to it.
Friday, May 21, 2010
Terrible word. Really is.
So bad in fact that it was barred from our vocabulary when I was growing up.
Use the word, face the punishment.
Maybe the word should be barred today. Not only barred from speech but from action as well.
Harlan Ellison said, “I don’t mind you thinking I’m stupid, but don’t talk to me like I’m stupid.”
I have that posted on my office wall.
Thinking about also making it my electronic signature on email.
Think whatever you want about me. Just talk to me with respect.
Whether you believe it or not.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
I hope I would never intentionally be offensive to anyone.
I don’t think it is my nature to offend or be cruel.
Yet, I am not naïve enough to believe that I never offend.
Sometimes, my sarcasm gets the best of me and I say something that offends.
Sometimes, my humor is over the top.
Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, I say something I shouldn’t say.
While I can’t guarantee that I won’t offend, I can take action when I realize that I have.
I can apologize. Seek forgiveness. And, work not to repeat the same mistake.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
All toes in the water.
Frequently, someone will ask about my blog’s title.
The answer is simple.
Do you remember, as a child, playing in a creek, beach, or a swimming pool?
Often, we found ourselves testing the water by sticking a toe into the water to make sure it was warm enough to swim in.
As adults, we do the same thing with life. First one toe, then another, then another.
We’re almost afraid to jump totally in.
I’m not going to live life that way any longer!
All toes, knees, arms, and entire body go in at once!
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Knowledge is a good thing.
Most of the time, that is.
Knowledge can also be dangerous.
Or, better yet, a little bit of knowledge can be dangerous.
Should a “Monday Morning Quarterback” be given the same attention as Drew Brees, for example?
I don’t think so.
Yet, so often, we give people a job or we think more highly of them based upon what they say, how they look, or even what they claim to know.
I have a real problem with that.
People should be rewarded for what they really know and not what they say they know.
Monday, May 17, 2010
William Borden was the heir to the Borden family fortune. However, as a teenager, he felt called to missions. When someone told him he was throwing his life way, he wrote in his Bible: “No reserves.”
When Borden graduated from Yale, he wrote in his Bible, “No retreat.”
At the age of 25, on his way to China to work with Muslims, Borden stopped in Egypt to learn Arabic. Within a month, Borden contracted spinal meningitis and died.
In his Bible, were found these additional words: “No regrets.”
Oh Father, create in me the same spirit and desire.
Friday, May 14, 2010
I’ve been thinking about that lately.
I have a birthday approaching soon, way too soon. I suppose it’s a logical time to think about such matters.
I often wonder what legacy I’ll leave behind.
I hope it will be more than a job title or a line on my resume.
I hope my legacy will revolve around the life I tried to live for Jesus.
I hope my legacy will be that I was a good husband and father, despite my obvious flaws and failures along the way.
I hope it will be that I was a good friend.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
A reasonable word.
Yet, a word that leads to so many problems.
A wife and husband discuss a financial purchase. If great care isn’t exercised, the discussion turns into debate which turns into anger which turns into resentment which turns into a sleepless night on the couch for one spouse.
The same could be said of business partners.
Or even Facebook friends!
While business partners and Facebook friends don’t wind up on the couch, resentment is often the result of discussion.
Why is that? Human nature? Maybe.
Our sinful state? Probably.
Need to win?
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
We recycle car tires.
We recycle printer cartridges.
We recycle aluminum.
Preachers recycle sermons—they call them “sugar sticks.”
Hollywood recycles movies and TV shows from the past—those are called “remakes.”
Newspapers, metal cans, soda cans. All get recycled.
What about us?
Do human beings get recycled?
I know many people get caught up in having their family name carried forward by a child. But, that isn’t recycling.
Some people want their name engraved on buildings. Still not recycling.
I guess the only recycling we are good for is returning to the dust from which we were created!
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
A medium to communicate.
There’s news. Music. Sports. Entertainment.
There’s a lot of good on TV.
There’s also a lot of bad.
Language. Violence. Sexuality.
I’ve often heard people say, “There’s so many channels to have nothing worth watching.”
As a father of a two-year-old, I see truth in that statement.
I’ve read the average child watches more than 3 hours of TV a day.
I’ve also read that a child will watch over 40,000 murders or killings on TV before graduating from high school.
I have to do a better job of monitoring what’s on in my home.
Monday, May 10, 2010
There’s an old saying about mothers: “If Momma ain’t happy, nobody’s happy.”
Yesterday, being Mother’s Day and all, I thought it would be good for Evan, my two-year-old, to wish his mother a happy Mother’s Day.
So, bright and early Sunday morning, I got Evan out of bed. I whispered in his ear that it was Mother’s Day. I encouraged him to say, “Happy Mommy’s Day” as we went back to our room.
Evan got part of the saying right. From that time on, he kept saying, “Happy Mommy!”
As I think of it, he got it right!
Friday, May 7, 2010
Ever get to the point where you say, “You win!”
Some people have a real knack for having to win.
No matter the subject.
They’re not going to be satisfied until they have won the discussion—even when you didn’t realize a competition was at hand.
The other day, a friend asked for help. I thought it was a sincere request.
When I sent the requested information, the person said, “Thanks. But…”
I responded with clarification.
The reply, “Yes, but…”
That continued over several emails.
Finally, I said, “You win.”
Their reply? “No problem!”
You win! Got it!
Thursday, May 6, 2010
I struggle with that word.
So often today, we are expected to be tolerant of everything. Every lifestyle. Every decision. Every philosophy.
If we aren’t, we are intolerant. And, just by shifting a few letters around, if we are intolerant we are also considered ignorant.
But, I don’t set the rules.
There are rules to follow. He chose those. Not me.
One such rule is this: “Jesus said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father but by me.”
Don’t like that rule? Take it up with the rule’s Creator.
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
“From there to here, from here to there, funny things are everywhere” (Dr. Seuss).
Is laughter a gift from God?
I don’t know. I don’t think the Bible states it that way. Oh, I know what the Bible says about laughter being good medicine. And, I agree with that.
Laughter is certainly better medicine than castor oil. Or, some of the night-time-so-you-won’t-cough-and-feel-better-in-the-morning-medicines out there.
Laughter won’t kill you either. But then again, even if it did, at least you’d go out laughing.
Life could be worse.
So, today, can you find one thing to laugh about?
Other than me!
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Okay. Who’s reading this?
Any one out there?
I know someone is!
I can just sense it. You know the feeling?
As if you’ve experienced something already.
Oh wait. That’s not right. That’s déjà vu.
Maybe it’s more like agoraphobia.
That can’t be right. There aren’t that many loyal people who read my thoughts on here.
Maybe I should be paranoid the other way!
No one is there. No one is reading my words.
If a word is typed and no one reads it, is it still a word?
It’s not easy putting paranoia into perspective.
Monday, May 3, 2010
Every profession has its share of jokes about their work.
For some reason (whether deserved or not), lawyers carry a bad rap with them.
We’ve all heard “good” lawyer jokes.
“What do you call 1,000 lawyers in the bottom of the ocean? A good start!”
Mark Twain told countless lawyer jokes.
Even lawyers tell lawyer jokes.
Now, lawyers are flocking to the Gulf Coast to prepare for lawsuits related to the oil spill.
A question: Aren’t there already enough lawyers along the gulf coast?
Why do we need more?
A word of advice. Stop making our joke-telling so easy!
The old saying is that opposites attract.
You ever notice that? Probably.
That is never more true than in a marriage.
She’s always cold. He’s always hot.
He loves the beach. She loves the mountains.
She wants to watch a romantic comedy. He wants to watch ESPN.
What’s a couple to do?
Fight? Disagree? Go to their respective corners and count to ten?
How about compromise? While compromise often seems to be a negative thing, it doesn’t have to be. It can be positive. And, healthy.
In any relationship, compromise is a must. It’s about give-and-take. It’s about sharing.
Saturday, May 1, 2010
Lately, my days have been filled with extra paperwork.
Oh, most every day is filled with paperwork. That’s the nature of my job.
I laugh when I read the quote that computers will eventually do away with paperwork.
Not going to happen any time soon.
Lately, I’ve been swamped by paperwork. W-2’s, income tax returns, paystubs, and the list goes on.
We’re buying a house.
The process of buying a house doesn’t get easier. Or, at least, I don’t think so.
In a month, it’ll all be over.
The fun begins: MOVING!
Why did we do this to ourselves?